Red flags in online dating

16-Jul-2017 18:38

If you're in the first few months of dating and there have been a few false starts or warning signals, perhaps it's nothing — everyone is flawed, and it's good to give a little leeway here and there.

But there are some legit red flags that some people wave around like glow sticks on a dance floor, and it's up to you to pay attention to them.

Anytime that a woman says that she can be crazy or hard to handle, it’s probably worse than she’s letting on. But when everything goes wrong all the time, that’s a bad, bad sign. On the Rebound There’s nothing wrong with being on the rebound per se. The question for you is whether or not you want to get involved in another person’s rebound.

This also applies to terms like “emotional.” Watch out for any sign that she’s not as together as you would like. The worst-case scenario is that she might decide that she doesn’t hate her ex as much as she thought she did.

Time will tell if you're looking at a con artist, but in the meantime, proceed with caution.

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These are some of the most common red flags that we’ve encountered at The Art of Charm on online dating profiles.I have definitely been guilty of reading a text, forgetting to respond, and then forgetting about it altogether, only to be reminded by a followup text the next day. This happened to a friend recently: She sent a text to a dude she's dating, and he read it around midnight.She knows he read it, because his read receipts are on. If someone you met last Tuesday is riding you hard, feeding you mad lines and acting like you're the most incredible thing since the advent of the smartphone, take a step back.If you have something fun you want to do, of course it's perfectly fine to invite your new object of twitterpation along for the ride.But if you find yourself making the first move every time, they might be just not that into you.

These are some of the most common red flags that we’ve encountered at The Art of Charm on online dating profiles.

I have definitely been guilty of reading a text, forgetting to respond, and then forgetting about it altogether, only to be reminded by a followup text the next day. This happened to a friend recently: She sent a text to a dude she's dating, and he read it around midnight.

She knows he read it, because his read receipts are on. If someone you met last Tuesday is riding you hard, feeding you mad lines and acting like you're the most incredible thing since the advent of the smartphone, take a step back.

If you have something fun you want to do, of course it's perfectly fine to invite your new object of twitterpation along for the ride.

But if you find yourself making the first move every time, they might be just not that into you.

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